CLUSTER FAMILY IS POSSIBLE
The building of cluster families in nuclear family level is possible to enjoy the togetherness they had enjoyed in the past. In church level, or in community level or in village level, make a cluster of 5 nuclear families coming together voluntarily, in which, they together will get involved in all their affairs of helping each other, gathering together and enjoying celebrations, supporting in needs of hour each other, etc….It will be togetherness of life, togetherness of joy, togetherness of some gossips, togetherness of each one supporting each one, togetherness of caring and sharing, togetherness of some internal politics, togetherness of some weekly/monthly outdoor games, and so on…. But the resultant enjoyment will be rewarding…
It will be cluster family under separate roofs.
There will be some mismatches, like financial contributions, or contributions of time…...contribution in terms of physical efforts….. or contributions in terms of talent or intelligence. … all may be mismatches,,,,, but, ultimately, we will learn and teach our children to be social being, rather than excluded, selfish individuals. It will give better opportunity. It shall not be a big community of not knowing each other. Each individual shall know each participant personally, their needs and support each other…. It shall be local level with minimum participants, with no one is permitted to exclude anybody else, but each shall accommodate each other….. No fresh members shall be accommodated, no members shall be expunged.
Once formed, it shall sustain in its original form, or it shall not exist at all. Nobody shall be member of more than one such cluster family. Selected celebrations, they can come together and celebrate together…..On personal occasions, like marriage, baptism or other ceremonies, they will not invite each other, but only inform, to which each shall attend and support, as if its their own affair. Invitation to the cluster member will be an insult to each other….If it grows beyond 5 nuclear families, it shall be broken and divided into two, based upon geographical proximity.
Errors by participants will be discussed, and resolve not to repeat it in future by anybody. Nothing to correct the past deed… Nothing to correct the individual….No apology no further criticism, no carry forward. Nobody is without faults. That's all… we all are human, fallible to sins...Let us pardon like our Lord pardons our sins……….
Hi Philip, Amazingly this is practically feasible when you cant be with a joint family when you are forced to live away from parents for work reasons or because of the usual Mother in law --- Daughter in law world war :-) . The trend is really effective as mutual support between different families when you live in a concrete jungle lifestyle.
ReplyDeleteMy new family is a live example to this Cluster family concept where I lived just few streets away from my parents because of space issues and Saas Bahu coldwar we had a neighbour in the apartment who were just like our own family with lots of day today sharing and caring any family contingency found an immediate solution or a emotional support between us.
This will be a win-win situation for all of us and enjoy the basic pleasure of being together than being an orphan in this helpless world.
Great thought great heart keep going chacko!!
Good motivation...... Just enjoy the results.........Thank you.........
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